The Virtue in Speaking.

Before the the very dawn of first light, the earth was empty. Darkness and lack of order loomed and there was unfathomable void. In all that, God had creative power in Him and eventually, by His words, everything that we see was made.

While putting the earth to order, God went ahead and created Adam. He then invited this man He  had made into what He was doing by asking him to name the animals in the garden. This was to show that in man was the same creative power because in that area of naming and identity there was still emptiness and voidness as far as the animals were concerned. In Adam's creative power he named all animals excellently (of course relying on God). 

Question is, as you go about life, Are you filling empty and void slots with anything? Is it creative power or destruction that you are using? Do you use positive words or negative words?

Words are full of power! Power takes form of the spirit behind it. So your words, depending on the spirit that has formed them can either heal or wound, they can encourage or discourage, they can build up or tear down.

If this then is the case, we need to be accountable for the words that come out of our mouths. 

One trait of a virtuous woman is being mindful in our speech.

Colossians 4:6 Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, not cut them out.

It easy to know the character and heart of man from the first conversation you have with them. Just by weighing and testing the words that come from them we can definitely know the state of their heart. 

Words coming from your mouth signify what is on the inside. Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. The words we speak are always from an overflow of the conversation that is going on in the inside of us. 

I love being in God's class,  I feel being there allows Him to teach me unsaid truths that cause me to be a great woman. I feel it is very important to ask God what doesn't seem clear to me especially when I read the scriptures. One thing that I have constantly sought to understand is really what He meant for a woman to be virtuous. It is easy to think that the virtuous woman is one who is perfect and doesn't struggle with anything. We must be even for given for believing that she doesn't even exist because, well, she has it so much together to be a real person. 

I believe that a virtuous woman,  away from anything and everything we tend to see or not see,  is the kind of woman with an intentional relationship with God. It is the woman who takes time to listen to and obey the leadings of the Father. Even in that, our lives follow the direction of our thoughts and mouth. 

We are in a world where many people think being sarcastic or bashing others down is the coolest thing, most think sarcasm and being rude are markers of a strong and tough woman. Okay that is a huge lie from the evil one. It thrives in those who have insecurities and esteem issues. 

Sarcasm and rudeness actually reveal the unhealed scars in your heart. Just because your friends applaud your sarcasm doesn't mean it is a good thing. Usually,  the loudest and funniest person in the crowd isn't usually the smartest. The word of God is very clear about such qualities of speech. Sarcasm, foul language, rudeness, malicious words and such other language that doesn't carry life is a show of carnality, lack of gratitude and ungraciousness. 

Ephesians 5:4 Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks. 

God changes and God heals even the unseen scars. When He does this, it shows on our tongue, it reflects in the quality of our speech. A tamed tongue is a testimony of a healed heart. 

I pray that today, you will be intentional in yielding your heart to God for healing and rejuvenation. Be intentional about your words and even more importantly the conversations going on within your heart. 

You need to be intentional about your speech and how you treat those around you. You need to seriously ask yourself, what happens to people are around you when you speak? Do they leave feeling useless and downcast or do they leave  energised, with as assurance of being loved and cared for? 

My greatest mentor remains to be Jesus Christ. He really set a benchmark with how He treated everyone equally and how His words would always encouraged and brought solutions to those He met in His time here on earth. He always brought light in all places He went to. 

Words shape the atmosphere around us. My challenge is that you learn to create an atmosphere that you and other people will enjoy. Let your presence be an uplifting atmosphere where people will find refuge, strength, purpose, healing, enlightenment and everything else that will make them better. 

Be virtue! 

You are loved.